Relationship counselor and pastor, Sarah Omachukwu, has stirred widespread reactions online after cautioning women against marrying men who demand the return of gifts after a relationship ends.
Speaking in a viral video circulating on social media, the pastor emphasized that a person’s behavior after a breakup often reveals their true character more than their conduct during courtship.
According to Omachukwu, kindness is one of the most important qualities to look for in a life partner, warning that individuals who reclaim gifts they willingly gave during a relationship may lack the maturity and generosity needed for a successful marriage.
In the video, the relationship expert criticized the growing trend of former partners demanding the return of gifts after a breakup.
“Please, don’t marry somebody who is not kind. A person that will go back and collect what they gave during courtship because you broke up,” she said.
She questioned the reasoning behind men seeking to recover items they voluntarily gifted their girlfriends during a relationship, describing such behavior as a major red flag.
“A man will date a woman and when they break up, he will ask her to give him everything back,” Omachukwu stated.
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The pastor maintained that how people respond to disappointment, rejection, or the end of a relationship often exposes their true nature.
She argued that demanding gifts back after a breakup reflects poor character and a lack of emotional maturity.
“Anybody who will go back to collect everything they gave when they were dating… that is a low-grade, uncultured, uncouth man whom God delivered you from,” she said.
Omachukwu further advised singles to pay close attention to a partner’s actions during difficult moments rather than focusing solely on how they behave when the relationship is thriving.
Concluding her message, she reiterated that kindness should remain a non-negotiable quality when choosing a spouse.
“Don’t marry somebody who is not kind,” she emphasized.
