Pastor Bolaji Idowu of Harvesters International Christian Centre, Lekki, Lagos, has sparked debate on social media after demonstrating how to “talk with affection” using two men during a church service.
Key Highlights
- Pastor Bolaji Idowu used two men to demonstrate how to “talk with affection” during a church service.
- The demonstration was part of his teaching on relationships and marital dynamics.
- Some Nigerians defended the approach as a practical way to avoid controversy.
- Others called it uncomfortable and asked why he did not use his wife.
- The clip has reignited debate over how pastors present relationship advice.
The pastor’s demonstration, which formed part of his teachings on relationships and marital dynamics, has drawn mixed reactions, with some Nigerians defending his approach while others questioned why he chose two men to illustrate the lesson.
The clip, shared from the church’s recent service, has triggered discussions about how pastors should demonstrate relationship principles and whether such illustrations are appropriate in a church setting.
While some viewers argued that using two men was a practical way to explain the message without inviting unnecessary controversy, others described the demonstration as uncomfortable and questioned the direction of contemporary church teachings.
Mixed Reactions Online
Reacting to the video, @timmy54485671 defended the pastor’s decision, arguing that using women or his wife might not have effectively conveyed the intended message.
The user wrote: “Unah don spoilt and rotten for this country. Common sense, he can’t use female or drama group cuz they drama group won’t demonstrate what he has in the mind and trust me, if you don marry, you will understand why he can’t use his wife. so the best option at that point is that.”
However, @_amtoyo expressed a different view, writing, “This pastor seff Baba don too watch Nollywood.”
Another commenter, @VisioEaseDi…, questioned why the pastor did not use his wife for the demonstration, describing the scene as uncomfortable.
“Omo, why didn’t him use his own wife for this explanation? This is creepy asf,” the user wrote.
Similarly, @hombreinteligen, identified as T.E.R.R.A, criticised what the commenter perceived as a shift in how pastors present their teachings.
“What sort of demonstration is this?? From twerking on the podium to this? What is happening for Christ sake? What are these pastors turning themselves to cause of secularism. Might have just reverted to being a counselor or a motivationer speaker than all this,” the commenter wrote.
Another user, @SKIES NATIONS, suggested that some relationship demonstrations should involve a pastor’s spouse.
“Some examples are best demonstrated with your wife. Y’all be putting up yourselves on our faces for soft landing in cases of leaks,” the commenter said.
@Joiyy44, identified as John Iyanu, also expressed discomfort with the demonstration, writing, “So uncomfortable and irritating to watch. E con be likel wan vomit.”
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Some Defend The Pastor’s Choice
Meanwhile, social media commentator Morris_Monye offered a different perspective, arguing that using a woman could have generated even more controversy.
“If he had used a woman to demonstrate, it would have been worse. And yes, affection is how you speak to a man if you want anything. His money is not your right,” he wrote.
Another commenter, @BerryBills_, also defended the pastor’s choice, suggesting that critics would have found fault with the demonstration regardless of who participated.
“If he use woman do exanmple noW, una go still set am up with agenda in the future, wetin humans really want?” the user wrote.
The reactions highlight differing opinions about the use of practical demonstrations in religious settings, particularly when pastors address sensitive subjects such as affection, marriage and communication.
While some viewers believe such demonstrations can make relationship teachings easier to understand, others maintain that pastors should exercise caution in how they present their lessons to congregations and online audiences.
The debate surrounding Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s affection demonstration continues to reflect the contrasting expectations Nigerians have of religious leaders and the methods they use to communicate relationship advice.
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